Continue the adventure from the 20 years when rainfall events and moods are the same, when in just three days you can move from agony to ecstasy and back, 30 years loneliness installs itself as a reality much firmer.
The poles of this loneliness - resignation and despair - are often creations of the outside world.
Parents invoke "right age" to get married and children, are pushing us, considering an incredibly unlucky that we got married "to this age." Even if I think it was more luck that I never linked the fate of any of the men with whom I had failed relationships, so I complicate and more life, this is harder to understand for parents.
For them marriage is a kind of "Abracadabra" which takes you directly to "until death do you part", as is likely for them. All you can do is to them that celibacy is clearly preferable to a quick and painful divorce, a child is a wonderful gift, and that's why you have to appear as a fulfillment of a relationship and not a scrap of a happy family .
Another source of pressure is often a co-workers and that part of the entourage that take mandatory to "laugh at themselves" - your grief and their humor, obviously. Whether the fine irony, or by allusions rude, will always find some individuals around you to make your days bitter.
The only consolation in this is that lout is in any case avoided a visit to marital status. Whatever you be married, bad jokes will meet everywhere, on every road you will find mischievous, and you just need to remember from time to time that evils come very often unwittingly, but always of envy and frustration. So head on and not give ear to what they say about! Trying to sting you, most do nothing to talk about their problems and frustrations.
Friends, most often married and occupied by the head of child and husband, are a source of pressure. When their concerns began to be increasingly related to home and newborn care, and your topics of conversation are summarized in more and more of it, you feel away from them. You should try not to fall into one of two extremes: either they seem completely disregard that seized the roles of mother and wife, let yourself be taken by mimicry possessed by a desire to follow their example.
It is just a new test of true friendship. If you've gone through enough experiences together so far, the new experience, marriage and motherhood, which become a fellowship through it will only become even closer, and will help you get an idea - the good and bad, not ideal - about everything that happens. It is an experience that will enrich and that has nothing to do with envy and frustration.
Oscillating between resignation and despair, it's easy to lose their compass will, and fulfill your dream to reality others rather than our own desires. And a prolonged celibacy has many advantages: more time for career and professional fulfillment, more leisure to make sure that you want a family and child the opportunity to meet this child with everything he deserves.
Taking time to achieve your personal and by focusing on this, prepare the ground for a balanced relationship, which never have the feeling that you had to sacrifice, to give up things for you.
Remember all these advantages, the qualities that certainly you have and you have all the time to cultivate them.
Smile! If you smile at the future, and he will smiles to you!